LostButHopeful, thanks for stopping by. What I meant by doing “nice” things is that I‘m allowing H to do the cake eating, sort of. You are right, at the end, doing these things will make me feel better about myself. But, I also have to remember about the boundaries. Right now there is no confirmed OW as far as I’m aware. If this change, then I will stop doing some of the things I’m doing for him now.
I’m not sure if I see any mixed messages anymore. My H is pretty determined in his decision about the M. He doesn’t want it.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
