So, how are things with you now? Did you get the D paperwork?
You now "know" your H much better than you did when you first met. While it may feel hurtful and feel like your trust was betrayed, is any of it really a deal breaker for you?
None of what you now know needs to have any significant change in how you continue forward. It really is just information and take what ever time you need to process it and come to any decisions you make.
Are you operating from LRT now, or are you still wanting to use other, less drastic DB techniques at this time?