I kind of liked getting angry because it made me stop crying & miss him less.
Anger is a really easy place to live in our sitches, but it just masks our pain (and in fact prolongs it) and prevents us from healing.
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But he always texts back some super nice thing like "You deserve to be happy. You are the nicest person I know -(Blah Blah Blah)". Why would a WAH say that nice stuff?
My W says the exact same stuff, practically word-for-word. I think like Cadet said, it's the guilt talking. They know their actions are hurting us and they feel guilty. If we're happy then they don't feel as guilty about what they've done. The thing is, we don't want our WAS's to return out of guilt because they'll just leave again. So we strive for PMA, we show our WAS a happy, content us. With guilt out of the way, hopefully they can dig deeper within themselves to sort through their emotions and come out of the fog.
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I am so confused and wonder if I need lithium because I go from happy to crying in seconds. Do you know of anyone else like this - or should I go to a psychiatrist? I am on Cymbalta for depression ready. Please help oh wise one(s) on this DB forum.
It's been less than a month since he moved out, I think you just need more time to sort through things. How long have you been on Cymbalta? It can take 4 to 6 weeks for A/Ds to stabilize and reach full effectiveness.
