What a thing for your H to say! But the MLC mind truly believes this, otherwise what justification would they feed to themselves for hurting us, the very people they vowed to love?
I hope you have not responded to that nonsense. It really would not matter what you responded, I think. He believes this; he has to believe this.
The more difficult task for me has been separating out thr truth from the things my xSO says to me. Because in a deep dark corner, I do wonder that if I had been a better partner, less independent, more integrated, more affectionate, then maybe the MLC would have happened anyway but maybe he would have acted differently towards me. I don't really think it works that way, but in the beginning I believed everything he said.
Try to reach for the dimmer switch a bit more and focus on you. Take away the opportunity for him to spit your way.
