BeingMe, I wasn't trying to 2x4 you. LOL I think you do see what I see, because you have been the one who has told us the things I have commented on. Your H doesn't come across as controlling, because the ones who are really good at it, do not seem so. BeingMe, I really think it just comes down to the fact that you are hoping he will change, and you are a little scared of what will happen with a divorce. That's why you keep coming up with reasons to put off the divorce. Do I think your H will change? Probably not...... Its been my experience that the vast majority of people in these situations don't change. I also think its really tough for those who are such controllers and manipulators. They really love that power and are very reluctant to give it up. In any case, I think you need to figure out what you are going to do for your own peace of mind. If you keep on like this, you will drive yourself crazy. If you want to stay married, you need to accept your H for what he is and find ways to deal with things. If you don't want to live like this anymore, you need to move on with your life. I.C. can be a good thing, but remember, I.C. is only effective if you are receptive to what your C says. Unless I am terribly wrong, your I.C. is going to say a lot of things we have posted to you.
