Kaffe Diem, She's only working part time at a photography business that doesn't make much money.
The biggest complaints from her perspective: 1) Our inability to communicate effectively. 2) I'm too controlling and my strong personality is overpowering her. 3) She wants more of an emotional connection and relationship with me that involves sharing of feelings. 4) She wants a more spiritual husband.
Her shortcomings in my mind: 1) She relies on me for everything from paying the bills to fixing the kids bikes to mowing the lawn buying and fixing the cars, caring for the yard, ect. 2) I've asked her to go back to work now that the kids are going to school full time and she has refused. I would like a career change but don't feel the ability to take that huge risk with only one income. 3) I'd like her to be more independent and stop feeling like she has to ask me and rely on me to do everything for her.
It doesn't seem to matter much now that she won't even talk to me. I just got an apartment and this separation is starting to seem permanent. She won't engage in small talk and just looks right through me every time we interact regarding the kids. She didn't even look at me once when we were in the counseling session.
