Weird scenario

[Jeack]

I have one last question. My Birthday is on Monday. Although i'm not expecting anything from her to acknowledge my birthday this year. How would you respond if I get a HBD Text. I was thinking just a thank you short and sweet. But i'm getting ahead of myself.

And I thinnk I'm just going to go incognito on FB. Was thinking of using it to "act as if" But that seems manipulative and fake.

[hotwheelsaust]

Jeack, my birthday is the coming Wednesday, same thing expecting maybe a text "Happy Birthday". I will simply reply thank you. I don't know about the Facebook option, to me, I still have some family and friends who are happy to acknowledge my birthday, so why shouldn't I reply to their messages. Just don't make is seem like you are sitting on Facebook all day waiting for them.

[Jeack]

Thanks I think thats how I'll handle it. And Happy early Birthday to you

[SFC_Swede]

I am surprised we havent seen a thread on handling this Sunday (Mothers Day).

That one for me is tough. Her side of the family is getting together for family portraits...but after Final BD on 2 May, I was told she didnt want me there. Nothing since.

So not sure if after detaching for a week and giving her space how to bring it up.

[Jeack]

The theme has been concerning Mother's Day. That its ok to get a card from kids. Or a non mushy card for W. she is still the mother of your children. I read earlier on a thread where it took a guy a half hr to find a suitable card.

[cbtdad]

It definitely depends on each sitch for sure. Mother's Day is tough because you want to show you care for them as being a mother to your children, but don't want it to come off as pursuing

[Papa4Life]

Interesting you bring this up. I asked W this morning if I should buy a Mother's Day gift from the kids and she said, of course, it would be weird if you didn't do that. I thought that was odd because she's preparing to tell them that we're getting a D but not buying a stupid card is going to be a bit awkward. Hmm...

I said, one last Mother's Day gift, and she said? What do you mean? We're still their mother and father. Hmmm, does she really think that we're still going to give each other Mother's Day and Father's Day gifts post-D? Is it just me or does this seem completely naive?

Am I wrong for thinking that I don't want to be my W's friend if we end up getting a D? Co-parenting, okay. But being bestest buddies? I mean I don't have any bitterness towards W, but I would want to get on with my own life and not be chained to her at the ankle for the rest of my life.

Anyone have a different opinion?

[Jeack]

Well broke #36 on Sandi2 list. Was running errands and just got done picking up some dj lights for my wedding tonight and mutual friends XGF texts me wanna grab a drink. So I oblige we have a drink in the upstairs lounge then I decide to go to the downstairs to have a cig. Well W and I mutual friend was there with another girl. Made it very akward. I was just out for a drink and got caught in more drama.

I get a text later from mutual friend. You have perfect timing.
I just responded [censored] happens, that was definitely weird.

[Jeack]

Papas

After my first D I would have kids buy gifts from them. When she met another man he assumed that role. I still have the kids buy her and her new husband Christmas gifts but just small stuff.