Well T, let me throw something in here. I did not R with my exw, however I have been on these boards a very long time. Most of the vets will tell you, OM is like an addiction and it will take time to get him out of her system. I will reflect on how I wanted to handle my sitch if it ever got to your point. First of all the sex part to me was just that sex, she had it many times before me and so did I. I find it hard to believe people when they say that that's a deal breaker because of trust. I look at it this way, if she stole money from me that's a trust issue, I could forgive her for that if I felt she was truly remorseful. So that's how I look at the sex part. Only you know your W, or you thought you did. I always looked at my role in my sitch, What did I do to drive my W into the arms of another, or what did I not do. These are things that you are dealing with right now. T, if your W gave you a list of things that she wanted you to change, you would look at the list before your W cheated and maybe would have just blown them off, but now as I did I truly recognized the things that I was lacking.
