You will likely be the brunt of her anger for a while. As cadet mentions, detach, detach, detach.
Doing your own personal growth is for you, not to win your W back. That COULD happen, but you should be doing it for you.
In the mean time, your W will probably think that it's to win her back, so she will bait you and even unconsciously hope that you don't grow, since then she'd have to question whether her belief that you could not change and be the man she'd be a fool to leave.
And you are likely to be to blame for a lot of things, valid or not. It is common enough in WAS that we have come to know it as "script" behaviour. As though the WAS reads a scrip that tells them how to behave and what to say.
Pick up and read the book "Divorce Remedy" if you have not.
What things do you want to change in yourself to help you grow?
What do you do to GAL (Get a Life)?
What complaints, if any, has your W had about you that you feel could be valid?
