I know that this trust issue is a biggie. I'm going to pick myself up out of this mudpuddle I fell face-first into and get back to the focus I was concentrating on before I tripped and went splat.
He didn't just do this to me. He hurt himself horribly by his infidelity. I know he still hurts everyday over it. As much as I am struggeling with trust, I know he is too.
He doesn't trust himself because he can't comprehend how he could have been so "selfish and stupid".
I'm not the only one who deals with fear because I'm pretty sure that he also lives in fear that one of these days I'm going to tell him I made a mistake in wanting him back and he should just go away.
I guess I could go on an on, but the bottom like is that infidelity sucks and hurts everyone involved. I'm sure that even the butt-ugly one felt hurt and cried around to her friends for a few months about being unceremoniously dumped on her ass. I doubt however that she even comprehends the damage she helped create since she keeps doing this like it is a hobby or something.