JP, not sure if you were asking me or Advina. But I will reply either way. I would tell W that you understand what he is saying about having friends. Bin would then say something to the effect of "imagine if the shoe was on the other foot. I hope you can understand why I feel the way i do about remaining friends with him" I would follow that up with understanding that she needs time and that you think you do as well. In the meantime I don't think it's productive to have discussions about us. Then give we space!!! JP, you don't want to force her to give up this guy as a friend. You want her to give him up as a friend because she wants y'all's marriage to work and she respects you. That is a big difference. That's why I have given up expectations. I will work on me and if she doesn't want to try with new me at some point than that's ok. Because I know I'm gonna be alright. You will as well. You need to know that! I promise you if you try something different it won't get any worse
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
