The absolute worst thing you can do is tell her how she didn't meet your needs or how you have done nothing but give and give and give to the marriage. Trust me - if you say those things even once it will be burned into her memory like nothing else.
DOH! Yeah, dont do that brother! I did, having deployed to Afghanistan, made a crap load of cash and came home to almost nothing. I made the mistake a couple days after BD during a follow up conversation similarly. I awoke the next day to a note with her rings on it saying its over for good, she hasnt been in love with me for years, and all the other stuff you read here.
Listen to these folks, because I made every mistake you can make...and the only reason I believe I am still in the house is because I am disabled, unemployed, have no income, and the W feels just sorry enough to not throw me out.
I wish I could go back in time and take that conversation back, but I cant. I went from a BD and the tension of that...to a full scale nuclear strike on me.
Me-45,W-36 M-12 yrs, T-15 years SS- 16 Nov 2003 Initial B date, 2-3 others since EA/PA OM 2003-2004 Reconciled 2004 May 2013 Final BD, W completely detaches W files D June 2013 I am moving out 26 July 2013
