Thanks again everyone. Had a really productive session and I came away feeling better. To the point that I am telling you all right now, as CB with you as my witnesses, that I am done snooping and focusing on tat-boy. She will have to answer to her friend on him, and hopefully will come clean, but I feel so positive about the path we are on that it finally clicked.
On a note that you all may find funny, our T, in a nod to his training by MWD, used the term walk-away-wife in a sentance. I caught it right away from my time on here.
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"