Just one quick thought...I'm by no means a vet here, but something you said struck a chord with me...
Originally Posted By: BrightFuture
By doing these “nice” things for H, I’m also making it harder for him to completely break away from me.
I was just thinking, you really need to do 'nice' things because they make you feel good, because you feel they are the right thing to do...I've found that when I do something kind for W, and I have no expectations attached to my actions, I feel really good about myself and what I've done. I'm guessing that W notices, but I don't think too much about it anymore; I just know that I'm a good person and I'm good with that...
Anyways, you're sit seems like a tough one to me; lots of mixed messages and twists and turns. Not sure how I'd do under the same circumstances, but you sound like you're doing very well, and I wish the best for you {}
