This is an excellent thread! My wife is a WAS and is also having an affair. I made many of the mistakes listed in the list because at first you just don't understand. You panic get angry and lash out. It's important to get control of your emotions quickly!!
I've been seperated for 3 months now and have taken full responsibility since two weeks after our seperation. I'm seeing positive signs my wifes anger and resentment are slowing fading away. The first month when we communicated was just her lashing out at me and finding negatives in everything. This is important to shutup and just take it. My wife has since then basically given up with the negativity and is now trying to ignore me even though I do get the occasional thank you for a positive compliment.
I would say rules in this order: 1. Control your emotions this way you react with thought 2. Be patient, kind, and loving 3. Law of attraction. be attractive
