JP...

Just by the simple fact that she is arguing the point with you, means that she has already made that choice FOR NOW....

It doesn't mean that will always be her choice...

She can, and will change her mind a thousand times between now and the day she makes her final choice.

Today, her choice is to leave the marriage, and it will be her choice, until it isn't anymore....



Look, you have already given her your words, that you cannot have that in your life.....right ???

Now is the time for action instead of just more words.

Because you said it already, now is the time to live it.

That is what I was saying earlier. Enforcing your boundary is the most important part....

If you don't ???

They become more meaningless words from you...

So kick back, STFU, and get on with yourself for now...

And don't ask how long it will take, cause it will take as long as it takes....

And you will fight everything inside of yourself to not text, or call her.

DBing is counter-intuitive. what you know as being right, is wrong, and what you feel is wrong ? Is probably the right thing for now....


So stop complaining that SHE needs this space and time, and start seeing that YOU need this space and time too, maybe more than she does....