Sorry I haven't been responding more...my own sitch has taken a turn so I've been engrossed in that.
Originally Posted By: steveh27
It down slid into Sat where I couldn't take much more and had to say something. We didn't yell but emotions got high and I asked about her moving forward with an attorney.
Not great there. When emotions get high, you've got to learn to walk away until you can speak calmly. You'll say stuff that you don't mean, or try to hurt her, and that's just not productive.
Originally Posted By: steveh27
What [censored] about this is the "hope" is what is carrying me right now - I can't get to the stage of GAL it seems counterproductive to my situation.
There's always hope...you can carry that a long time. But I think GAL is extremely important too. It'll help you keep your sanity and make you feel better about yourself. I'd challenge you to do at least 2 things per week for yourself (and we're starting slow here). It doesn't have to be something big....a walk, a run, a dinner, etc.
Originally Posted By: steveh27
I know this violates one of the 37 rules but does this sound off base? Nevermind this does sound bad, doesnt it.
Yeah, I'd steer clear from that.
With regards to finding time to read....hit the coffee shop for an hour or two, or grab some dinner somewhere and bring it. It's not difficult to get thru it, and you're going to be better after you do.
This is a rough road buddy and I don't know that I've done this before, but I'm going to recommend you read my own sitch if you can find the time. I worked thru a lot of my own demons in my bootcamp thread and maybe it can help you do the same.
