I guess my question is: if his head is telling him one thing (that staying and recommitting is the right thing to do) but his heart is telling him another (that he just can't get the feelings back) -- what is the approach I should be taking as we continue Retrouvaille? Just continue to give him space?
I think RetroV applies a lot of pressure to the WAS. It's a really great program, but it is more geared towards struggling couples than couples in which one is totally done. Your H clearly has no interest in reconciling. If he wants to continue the dialogging then by all means do it, but do not pressure him with R talks at all. Just let him work through that on his own. I absolutely believe that as they say in RetroV- love is a choice. As Covey (7 Habits) said, love is a verb, not a noun. It's something we do, not an object laying around waiting to be picked up. Your H doesn't believe this right now and you can't convince him. Only he can convince him. So give him time and space, hopefully he'll figure it out.
