Why can't I keep my mouth shut? Why do I think he will be different & come running back if I say I miss him?
Because it always worked before. Whenever we get in an argument with our spouse or get the silent treatment, it's natural to break the silence after a while and reach out to them. And that's usually all it takes to get things back on track. Pretty soon the wrongs are forgotten and all is well again. NOT THIS TIME. This simply does not work with a WAS, it always worked before when the R was "normal" but now the R has been severed and all reaching out does is make the LBS look weak, pathetic and desperate to the WAS. Try to keep that in mind. The dynamics are completely different now and what works in this case is DB'ing. DB'ing runs counter to everything we've done before, so it is very hard to implement at first. Just stick with it, it gets easier.
