Oh what a great happy day today. Don't know exact reasons, but for some reason I am definitely at a place in my mind with no expectations. I can tell and it really is a good feeling. Heard a great song on the way up here for the first time. "Let her Go" by Passenger
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
Got a Mother's Day question for all of you husbands dealing with same things right now. I'm thinking in going to get a card and a little gift from my son to W. Then was thinking of cooking dinner for her and her mother at her moms house since they live together. My brother in law wanted to do something like that as well. He was asking me and I figured that would be ok. Thoughts?
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
I have been questioning what to do for Mother's Day also. Here is a post that I put on my thread yesterday:
"Trying to buy a Mother's Day card for your STBXW is sad but kind of comical. Everything says something like, "to the love of my life, to my best friend, etc". Finally found one that said something like, "rest, enjoy your day and do something for you". Only took me about 30 minutes to find it."
I so wanted to get her a card that said I love you but that probably wouldn't help anything at all. I did buy gifts that the girls will give her though. We usually go out to eat on Mother's Day. I will likely just ask where she wants to go.
M 37 W 36 T22 M14 D8 D4 8/2012 distanced BD 11/2012 (likely wants D. Feelings have changed.) W move out date: June 8th.
CBT...I have learned a lot from your posts, as well as the others responses. Stay strong brother.
As for the Mothers Day question...I was going to start a thread on that, because I am confused as what to do as well, but I am 99% sure I just got off of moderation, so was afraid to post it and not have it appear until after Sunday.
Me-45,W-36 M-12 yrs, T-15 years SS- 16 Nov 2003 Initial B date, 2-3 others since EA/PA OM 2003-2004 Reconciled 2004 May 2013 Final BD, W completely detaches W files D June 2013 I am moving out 26 July 2013
Yeah Grizz, i don't think the "I Love You" card would have even good. But i do think taking her and kids out sounds like a good idea.
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
very jealous guys !!! I wish my h would ask me out or give me a card!!! (but, I am not his mom and my D is 22)
not to be a negative nelly, but are you sure that your wives want to be out with you? regardless of mothers day... would that not be considered pursuing? be careful, before you assume.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
I haven't asked yet WFM. But I'm going to be at her moms Sunday afternoon spending time with son since I'm out of town now. I was just going to offer since her brother wanted to cook dinner for their mom anyways. I went to culinary school and do a lot of cooking. So special occasions I like doing something nice
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
I'm thinking in going to get a card and a little gift from my son to W.
Get S to make something for her, even if it's just a piece of paper with his scribbling on it. Most moms like that a lot more than a store-bought card. For a gift do something similar, like get one of those cement handprint "paver" kits, have S put his hand in it and then scratch his name and the year into it below the handprint. She'll appreciate that you put the time in to help S do something for her a lot more than if you just go buy her something.
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Then was thinking of cooking dinner for her and her mother at her moms house since they live together.
You know your sitch better than we do, but it sounds a little wierd to me for you to invite yourself into their home like that. I would think it would be better to invite them out to dinner, although many would argue (and I don't necessarily disagree) that you should do nothing at all.
For a gift do something similar, like get one of those cement handprint "paver" kits, have S put his hand in it and then scratch his name and the year into it below the handprint. She'll appreciate that you put the time in to help S do something for her a lot more than if you just go buy her something.
What an awesome idea.. sounds like a 180, too...
I personally think that fried chicken in a park sounds like a good idea... Have S write out the invite with directions or something...
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