JP... you asked how u can do that while still giving her time?

just as Sayitaintso suggested:

"Wife, I am no longer able to be in a relationship with you as long as you are with another man"

And then back away and try to again place the focus on yourself.

CAN YOU DO THIS JP????? CAN YOU??

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)