"Wife, I am no longer able to be in a relationship with you as long as you are with another man"
Whilst I agree with this, I do think that you should expand and think about your words a bit here..
Wife, I will no longer allow MYSELF , to be in a relationship, where my partner chooses to engage herself physically, and emotionally with another man....
JP, if you can say this, and actually mean what you say, and your actions can back it up, then you are not stating a boundary to punish her in any way.
You are saying it to protect yourself, and the marriage.
You aren't saying who she can be friends with that way, you are only stating that IF she continues to make that choice (physically and emotionally), then you will not be around her....
So...what are you prepared to do IF she chooses to continue this behavior ???
I'm pretty sure that enforcing the boundary, is the most important part of it....
Don't ring a bell, if you don't like the way it sounds. Cause it can't be un-rung.....
It isn't physical and if i say emotional she wont see it, I dont think. He lives in another state.
I am on the line right now idk. Her being in communication with him as friends or lovers is something I can not accept. She wants more time. I am lost
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
