W: On the OM topic... a couple of things i guess. Please remember this is my side and my feelings. Yes I very much so understand your side and points. You have always controlled this, You say I can have friends, but that is not really true. Because I have been accused of having an affair with almost every male that I have ever talked to. So why not keep a friend that I want to and that has always been in my life when I feel that you will never "allow" me to really be able to talk to another male person without having an affair. Heck it hasn't been guys for that matter. So I guess one thing is I am a grown woman and can talk to or be friends with who I want to. You don't have to like that but... if that is your line then maybe you need to make a decision if you can live with me being friends with him or not. I can't make that decision for you. It is hard because I feel that I have given up so much regular freedom that I know I have messed up badly but I don't know that I want to give up somethings either.
M: Well it is a line for me. So I guess since you put it that I need to make a decision. I can not live with you being friends with someone you were involved with like you and OM.
M: I do understand your side. You need to be able to be friends with whoever you want. I need to trust you. I can not live with you and OM being friends after what happened, knowing your feelings you had for him It isn't fair to me. This is not me trying to control you, I wish you could see that. I also don't want you to make a choice that you will resent me for. I guess that means we are over. This makes me sick.
No response.
I am shaking.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
