I like that. I told her the second part the other day, but even so, I'm still having to ask at this point. It's frustrating. I think she's answering me honestly, but I hate that I have to ask. I think part of it is that she thinks it's going to turn into a fight, so she'd rather just avoid it....guess we need to discuss that too.
Maybe explain it to her.
That by having to ask her, it keeps the focus on the affair. And it keeps it in the forefront of BOTH of your thoughts. And that you feel, that if she could just let you know, without having to ask, will allow each of you, to start moving forward toward the future, instead of being stuck in the past.
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Are you asking for details ?
Or just that contact was made ???
Trust can be built with just letting you know that there was contact. You can trust, yet verify...
The details might be what is keeping things stuck. And that doesn't mean that you don't get them. It means that those convos happen when emotions are a little less high ??
