What's the general consensus here about dating? Not that it's something I'd do, but I'm intrigued to find out where other people are at re. testing the waters in the face of an imminent D.
The general consensus here is not to date. That said, there have been many LBSs here that did admit to dating. I'm one of them. W and I had a talk about 8 months after BD and she said she was more convinced than ever that we were done, and she said she wanted me to start dating (of course she said this because SHE wanted to date). Honestly if I thought there was even a 1% chance we would reconcile I wouldn't have dated. But I didn't think that then or now. I've been out with several women in the 3 months since then. I certainly respect those who refuse to date while DB'ing, but I do have to say that dating totally changed my perspective. It was the first time in a long, long time that I felt important, desirable and yes, even sexy It made me realize that W isn't the only woman in the world and that I -could- have a future relationship with someone else, that even though it's been 25 years since I went out with someone else I -am- still able to attract the opposite sex.
It made me realize that W isn't the only woman in the world and that I -could- have a future relationship with someone else, that even though it's been 25 years since I went out with someone else I -am- still able to attract the opposite sex.