DBing European Style, part 2

[Papa4Life]

Yeah, the yelling is a problem for W, and in turn was tough for me. She gets it from her mom, she says. It's a problem for me now not so much because it makes me want to shout back at her (which I was prone to do pre-detachment), but because now she's very distant and hostile. That means that if I can figure out a way to get her to stop shouting, instead of being pleasant with each other, she'll just go back to being distant and hostile!

What a situation.

What's funny is, probably the only concrete tool the now-former MC taught us was the window of tolerance, which is where if you feel yourself reaching your threshold of tolerance, you excuse yourself and say I'll be back in 20 minutes when hopefully we can continue this conversation in a more productive manner. But I'd sometimes say to W, are you reaching your threshold? And she would say, NO! I want to keep talking!! Lol.

This is actually one of the major barriers if W were ever (by some miracle) to have a change of heart about D. I wonder if she'd ever be able to change this.