Hey all, time for an update! First I had to share something awesome S10 came up with- sometimes he goes to the gym with me to work out. We were driving there one day and he looked over at me and he said "dude time!" I looked at him, held my fist out for a fist bump and said "right, dude time!" Since W and I don't do things together anymore and with D19 in college and D16 doing her drill team thing (and spending a lot of time with drill team friends), S10 and I have been doing more things that are just the two of us. It can be a little sad to think about how our family is rarely together anymore, but that one "dude time" comment made me see it from a totally different perspective- instead of lamenting that we're not all together why not celebrate that it's just the dudes getting some time together? I love it! So now whenever we're going to eat together, or a movie, or working out or whatever that's our new tradition- we fist bump and say "dude time!" The girls always complain when I put the top down on my car (messes up their hair), but not S10 So when we're having dude time it's ALWAYS with the top down (weather permitting). Just two dudes rockin' around in a red Mustang convertible, shades on and having a blast
W and I made the long drive to move D19 out of her dorm yesterday (W invited me along to help). I can't believe D19 is already finished with her first year of college! Unfortunately they require that the students move out of the dorm every summer even if they're moving back in the next semester. It was a madhouse because most everyone was moving out. While D19 was taking her last final, W packed up her stuff in bins and I hauled them down the 4 flights of stairs (no elevator) and onto a dolly to take on the long trek to the car. By the time D19 got back we were done, reminded me of how good W and I can be at teaming together to get things done.
S10 was sick last week and I couldn't stay home, so W stayed with him. Strangely, instead of taking him to her house she stayed with him at mine. S10 told me the two of them slept in my bed until noon. I think that's the first time W has slept in my bed since she left.
Contact with W has been pretty minimal, I still try to send her an email now and then to keep in touch and she pretty quickly replies to them, but that's usually just 2 or 3 times a week. We’ve had no additional discussions of D although that may be because S10 and D16 are still in school (she said she wasn’t going to pursue it until they’re on summer break).
D19 let it slip while W and I were having lunch with her at school that apparently W is planning another campout trip with the kids and OM this weekend. I don't know why W thinks she has to keep this stuff a secret from me, it doesn't bother me. I told her last time that I would appreciate it if she would tell me when she's taking the kids out of town just so I know where they are, but she's still not doing that. When D19 let is slip W made an excuse about not knowing what the plans were and quickly changed the subject.
I'm still going out with the woman I mentioned previously. We really get along great, but our lives are so polarized that neither of us sees how we could ever become serious. But we enjoy doing stuff together, so we're keeping it casual. She talked me into shooting pool with her a couple of nights ago, I haven't done that in over 10 years. It was fun!
So when we're having dude time it's ALWAYS with the top down (weather permitting). Just two dudes rockin' around in a red Mustang convertible, shades on and having a blast 
