Everyone is different. My 1 EW moved on with OM, eventually M and never looked back. Sure I handled the D in every conceivable wrong way...and I didnt have the treasure trove of information and experiences here...was younger, and lost everything including my kids...so after being here can easily see WHY that happened.

Now that 2W dropped the bomb...I am doing my best to recognize and turn around my flaws (I thought I had made major changes after 1M, but I guess theres room for more), give her respect, time, and space, and control my emotions no matter how devastated I feel at times.

Me-45,W-36
M-12 yrs, T-15 years
SS- 16
Nov 2003 Initial B date, 2-3 others since
EA/PA OM 2003-2004
Reconciled 2004
May 2013 Final BD, W completely detaches
W files D June 2013
I am moving out 26 July 2013