WAW having affair, still living in separate rooms

[kenva]

How are you supposed to answer to your child when he brings up he is lonely and that he wants a brother or sister, and he doesn't care which one it is?

[kenva]

Taking a few deep breaths. Getting ready to walk into attorneys office with divorce papers. Doing better than I thought.

[sayitaintso]

Good Luck Kenva- Your emotions most likely will cycle, go easy on yourself.

[newman7977]

Good luck Kenva keep us posted.

[kenva]

Thanks guys but Wow. My days are mixed up. I went to lawyers office and they told me its not until tomorrow. I checked my notes and , yep, it sais Thur. Thought I had myself together.

[kenva]

I have noticed that w is reading , confessions of a slacker wife. Does anyone know what this book is about and maybe why someone would read it ?

[MrCAS]

"A slacker wife has the wisdom to accept the following: that a little dirt on her kitchen floor doesn't hurt anyone, that wrinkles on her husband's shirt and on her face are perfectly natural and not worth worrying about, that party guests can be just as happy with a bowl of chips as an elaborate salmon mousse, and that over-scheduled equals under-happy."

Part-memoir and part-treatise on how to cut yourself a little slack, Muffy Mead-Ferro lays it on the line in Confessions of a Slacker Wife. Troubled by the bombardment of messages to do more, look better, and achieve greater things, Mead-Ferro challenges the reader to take a step back and evaluate her life for herself. She takes an in-depth look at many issues and expectations women have for themselves as wives and the expectations that others have for them.

For example, Mead-Ferro explores supposed standards of cleanliness, beauty, hostessing, activities, marriage, parenting, and even sex. She discusses where we these standards come from (the media and others around us) and how we unrealistically attempt to achieve them. Through each chapter she combines deft humor and personal anecdotes so that the reader can identify with and understand the points she is making.

I found Confessions of a Slacker Wife funny and freeing. It allowed me to re-think my priorities and determine which things in my life are necessary and which things are me trying to "keep up with the Joneses." My one criticism is that the author doesn't use enough examples to make the book relevant to everyone. It is difficult to determine whether she was writing a memoir about her life or an instruction book for how to give yourself a break. The combination of the two don't flow well at times.

All in all, Confessions of a Slacker Wife is an enjoyable read that will have women laughing out loud at Mead-Ferro's life as well as nodding in agreement with their own experiences. If you are in need of cutting yourself some slack, this is the ideal book to set you on the right course.

Just lifted it from the a book review. Another "cut yourself some slack book because you are not accountable". The wave of self help books that absolves people of their responsibility is astounding. That is why I found MWD's book so amazing... she says "You did it. Now own it."

Just being opinionated a little I guess.. LOL!

[newman7977]

Kenva,

How did the meeting with L go?

[SFC_Swede]

Not many of us want to be "weekend fathers", but the court systems and logistics are usually against us. What is it with these WAS's and their cake eating?

So...on one hand, they dont want you around, especially during the week. but it is perfectly ok for you to take the kids on the weekends, freeing them up to do what they want on their days off? Sounds selfish and vindictive to me.

I wrote a post earlier here about my experiences with 1W, and the kids. I hope you saw it. Dont end up like me. It left me bitter, and unable to connect with other people.

[kenva]

I was real confident in my L meeting yesterday and felt real good when I walked out of there. I dont think w is going to like my lawyes response to her. If its a divorce she wants, then i have come to grips w it but she cant have her cake and eat it too. I noticed a guy waiting for the next appointment and he looked really bad. Could tell in his eyes. I felt for him. I thought I was doing good but later that night my emotions kicked in and could not sleep. S and I are going away for the weekend till sun morning so he can be w her on Mother's Day. I am trying to focus on s and I having fun this weekend and not thinking of what she is doing.