Affair forecast:stormy with a chance of a break-up

[reachingHigher]

Hi tvs,

I wanted to share that I agree with uRw and that what you think or envision your H doing may not always be the case.

My H shared yesterday in MC that many, many nights he just sat around with drinking buddy talking about the true love he desired to find. Drinking buddy tried to encourage him to go out with him and look for "young girls" together but my H said they never did it. Just talked. He said to MC, "it's not that easy. Everybody you meet has lots of issues and lots of baggage.".

So it wasn't always the party-time I envisioned H having while he was out and in my H's case it was always fogged with alcohol.

I think as your H's A continues, as he is reconnecting more with home, with the boys, and with even *gasp* touching your waist, that the reality of the A, baggage that OW certainly carries, the lack of comfort he is receiving, would eventually erode away any excitement that this R carried for him.

I know with my H the whole process has been just that -- a process. There hasn't been a defined line of apology, commitment, etc. Just like he grew apart from me, he is growing closer to me.

Probably all sitches aren't like that, but I'm guessing most will be like that.

I wanted to tell, you, tvs, I found a little kitten this past weekend in an outbuilding we have. There are a couple of feral cats living under the foundation now (times past it's been opossums, skunks, armadillos, etc.). Well, I went out to get some gardening supplies and I saw this little kitten (maybe 3 weeks old) in a drawer with a towel we had put out years ago for one of our own cats.

For some reason, tvs, I thought of you. Like the little kitten is hope in a wild place. I'm in the process now of taming the mother cat. I should be pretty good at that, right? Lol! Yesterday, she came within two feet of me growling and meowing and looking so cute!

My S13 wants to tame the kitten.

It's not a perfect analogy with an MLC sitch, but for some reason that little kitten made me feel like it was a beautiful unexpected find of life. Of hope. Maybe that's what your sitch is birthing: hope amidst the wildness of pain and fear.

Keep holding out the food and water for your H. He is so afraid. But one day he can trust in you again and the kitten will eventually grow into the tiger Tom again!

Love you tvs,
Hugs,
rH