Mach1 is always dead on and honest. Between him and urworthy I have been blessed. Please don't think I don't appreciate everyone else on here that shares this boat, everyone has been invaluable for me!
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Glad I put a smile on your face, J. I sometimes think I am kinda unrelenting with you. But it is only because I care about you. And because I once felt as you do about myself.
I am honored to be able to help in any way.
And my lips are sealed. I wont tell Mach. But here's a secret for you. I got hit with his 2 x 4's back in the day. But between you and I, and he thinks I didnt realize, he went a little easy on me. LOL!
He helped me a great deal. Now dont you tell him that. I will never hear the end of it.
J, I know you think that you are not making any progress. But I see it differently. Maybe you think you should be further along. But we all move at our own pace. It happens when it happens. No right or wrong way.
You are reaching out to people on here. You are thinking about your fears. While you are contacting your wife, you have cut back. All good stuff.
And sometimes you take a step back, the important thing is to realize and continue walking.
I am so proud of you.
Now, watch out, cuz I cant do anything about Mach. He has a mind of his own. LOL!
I might try to learn but sometimes my feeble little man brain does not coo-operate as well as it might.
Sometimes a sense of humor helps us get through some really crappy stuff. My sense of humor seems to be coming back. Unfortunately, it can be sarcastic sometimes so I have to watch what I say... Eeeeps.
I still appreciate your input uR... Very much so.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
Thanks. Idk what to do or not do. She changes daily and I never know what to expect. I guess when I think back to what urworthy and mach1 have drilled into my head I just need to worry and focus on me. Not worry about my W right now. If I continue to try to do all the right things, I wont be working on me. Man this is not only hard, it's terrifying.
Yea...I have drilled it into your head...
So let me ask you this...
Why does SHE, get to dictate what kind of mood that YOU want to be in, by her actions ???
Why do you give her that kind of power over you ???
I think that your fear is exactly the opposite of what you think that it is....
I think that you fear becoming complete, way more than you fear being alone. I think it scares the bejeezus out of you, to think that YOU might become complete, and she won't.
So I think you are holding yourself back, so that you can somehow, be right where she left you.
Is that where you want to be ?? The guy you were a few months ago ???
And about being alone ??
Yea, you are kinda already doing that ( if you remove your texting finger), so why the hell does that scare you ?
It hasn't killed you yet, has it ??
Then why be afraid of it ??
Well I can tell you this JP, you can't lead from behind...
