Wife wants reconcile, doesn't feel any easier.

[T1000]

My last newcomer thread:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...564#Post2345564

Recent events at the top of page 2.

So what now? The stickies say that you should give it weeks or months to see if it is true. I feel I need to talk about stuff now so I'm starting this thread.

We sort of mapped out a plan on Monday that we will spend some time together, date and keep it slow.

W has been emailing me for the last few days. I'm off work the week of my birthday at the end of May. She wanted us all to go on vacation for the week.
We started planning it but we both then back tracked a bit and agreed that a week was too much, too soon. Too much pressure.

We have agreed that I would stay at her house for a few nights. Spend some time with the kids and spend some time together. She has booked a meal at a nice restaurant and has offered to drive (she likes to drink so that surprised me).

So far so good.

Things I'm struggling with.
Other than the emails there isn't much contact. I'm OK with that but I worry I'm not showing her attention. If I contact her and send her texts I don't want to come across as clingy.

I have more questions about OM. Mainly how she has dealt with the situation. Has she deleted his number, what has she done to make sure their paths don't meet.
Are the flowers he sent her declaring his love still on her table? On Monday I wasn't that bothered, they were going to die soon and that was that.
The more I stew about it there more I want to ask if they are still on the table and if so why?

We are 80 miles apart right now. I will see her for 20 mins on Friday when I pick up the kids. On Sunday if wedo something it will most likely be the afternoon and most if not all evening. How long do I leave it before bringing my concerns to her attention?

Do I phone her, email, try fit it Friday, take my time on the Sunday?

Panic T1000 says do it all right now!!!
Calm T1000 says, tell her your thinking about her in a text and leave it that. The opportunity to talk about things will present itself.