The Year of Seismic Activity

[sage]

Tal -- Thanks so much for this post! It's SO HARD to remember (for me, at least) that h is mired in his own fears...and that he, too, needs reassurances.

Sigh. it's so hard for me to strike the balance...to want to keep him out of the intense "fear" zone but at the same time to feel like we both have to go through it to come out on the other side as "stronger". I guess patience and openness continues to be key...so that when I ask "how can I know that this won't happen again" and he says "it just won't" that I can remember that maybe he's afraid to say "it won't because I live with this fear of XYZ and I can't and won't do that to us again...etc"

I think my h gets a big hug, too.

Sage