confusion...

[willbwell]

yes, ok...thank you Mr. Bond and MrCas. I certainly don't want to get into a disagreement. I think it is more the different scenarios in my mind that I need to give some thought. On the one hand, he may say he is ready to see a L. I will say, I am sorry that you feel that way. On the other, (maybe wishful thinking on my part but I am still hopeful) is that he will say he would like to come back home. I have already gladly allowed him to return only to have him leave again 2weeks later.(Feb)
I know if he were to ask about coming back home that I will need to not be so quick.
He may talk about coming home for the kids sake. Again, I'd do this gladly.... He wouldn't necessarily be returning to the M. Harder on me, but I would do it for the kids. Of course this would be cake eating on his part...

I get so tired of it being so hard!

I do GAL. My 180's are trying to listen more and talk less- so hard for me. H wouldn't say how he feels( other than to say he became distant from me and feels the barrier has grown too big. oh and the OW is easy to talk to! ) I would try and analyze him... Could it be that you are depressed H? You know this thing with OW is fantasy right H? Do you realize the impact on the kids H? I have a tendency to be a smart alec. I am working on being more quiet and listening and having empathy for my H who I think is lost.

I see my IC tomorrow.I will discuss with her. I know if he wants to pursue D there is nothing that I can do. He will want to do it amicably. I am afraid he may have the audacity to ask if I would look into a mediator!......What do I say here???? No, I would rather not...Thus far we have been very cordial around one another