Hiya J, how are you, sweetie? I see you going round and round about seeing your wife.
I just wanted to put something out there. What she needs to see and you need to make are real changes. I know you are thinking that you didnt pay enough attention to her in the marriage and now you think you should. But, she may be thinking, ok, he is just doing this because I said I wanted out of the marriage.
And I think this was probably not a good thing for you. You had an expectation and when it wasnt met, it has set you back.
The only way she will see that you have really changed, is if you really change. The way for it to be real is for you to do it for you.
Because I'm thinking that you dont want to continue to feel the way you do. And as long as the focus is on her and not you looking inward, you will continue to.
So, new day tomorrow, right? Get back to it.
Originally Posted By: Inside Out
If you can't get W out of mind, ie I want to text her. Ask yourself "How will this help me"? Just you. Will it lead to anxiety? Not helping. Will it lead to the hamster on the wheel? Not helping. Will it make you happy only to ratchet up anxiety when the answer doesn't come or is not the one you want? Not helping.
