Weird scenario

[jp787]

And at what point should I start a new thread? This one is getting pretty long.

FB=EVIL
I usually start a new thread at the end of ten pages unless a topic is being talked about, then eleven or twelve.

[Jeack]

And at what point should I start a new thread? This one is getting pretty long.

FB=EVIL
I usually start a new thread at the end of ten pages unless a topic is being talked about, then eleven or twelve.

Guess its time for a new thread tomorrow.i also just posted on you thread. Hopefully you find the humour JP

[MrCAS]

I took FB off my toolbar on Firefox. I don't look anymore. It just makes me crazy. W has not unfriended me or blocked me or anyone in my family. I take it as a good sign but that might just be grasping for a straw.

W lives on FB. Plays all the games and such. Since my games quit working, I stopped going. It was like God make it quit working. I take it as a blessing.

[Jeack]

I took FB off my toolbar on Firefox. I don't look anymore. It just makes me crazy. W has not unfriended me or blocked me or anyone in my family. I take it as a good sign but that might just be grasping for a straw.

W lives on FB. Plays all the games and such. Since my games quit working, I stopped going. It was like God make it quit working. I take it as a blessing.

Well that was because of my Passive agressive behavior about 2 months ago. She milked me for income tax money and then I said if you dont want to work on things I dont want to see what your doing and deleted her.

You can see how productive and non verbally abusive that comment was!

That's agood sign for you that she hasn't unfriended you. could be she's still interested in what's going on.

I still wonder if to act as if on FB cause I know she has her ways to see. But that is manipulative. I'd rather go dark on there as well. Makes people wonder more.

[Jeack]

So had a strong urge to text W so I came here instead. It's been only a week without contact. Just worried she thinks I don't care about her anymore. Just amazing how she has become a totally different person.

I'm really starting to lose any kind of hope that I can salvage this marriage.

As I wrote earlier. I was kind of taken back by a mutual friend of ours asking me so many questions about what was going on with the D. I know him and my W are suppose to go skydiving next Tuesday.

[Jeack]

Also how long do I continue no contact at all?

At least there hasn't been any further movement with the divorce talk lately

[Jeack]

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[AnotherStander]

It's been only a week without contact. Just worried she thinks I don't care about her anymore.

What happened to this?

"Today is one week with no contact. Feeling pretty good."

Good feelings gone already? Remember, NC is as much for you as your W. You both need time and space. A week is nothing, give it a few more before thinking about whether or not it's working.

I'm really starting to lose any kind of hope that I can salvage this marriage.

Your goal isn't to salvage your old M. It's dead and gone. Your W doesn't ever want to go back to that and you shouldn't either. So work on you, become the best you possible. Hopefully some day your W will become interested in a new R with a new you.

As I wrote earlier. I was kind of taken back by a mutual friend of ours asking me so many questions about what was going on with the D. I know him and my W are suppose to go skydiving next Tuesday.

Do NOT talk about your sitch to mutual friends or family. Encourage them not to talk to your W about it. In your most polite and diplomatic way ask them to butt out. Just tell them you and your W need time and space to think things through and leave it at that.

[Jeack]

Thanks for the great response. I was feeling good until BIL accepted friend request on FB. Then running into mutual friend asking lots of questions when he's asked none in the past. Just seemed like maybe she was trying to figure out what I've been doing the past week since I haven't been contacting her. I did tell mutual that I a round about way. Pretty much said not sure what's going on, haven't talked to her.

I really like how you said about our M being dead and wanting a new R.

Thank you!!!

[AnotherStander]

I was feeling good until BIL accepted friend request on FB.

I seriously don't think anything good ever comes from Facebook, LOL!

Then running into mutual friend asking lots of questions when he's asked none in the past. Just seemed like maybe she was trying to figure out what I've been doing the past week since I haven't been contacting her. I did tell mutual that I a round about way. Pretty much said not sure what's going on, haven't talked to her.

Good, the less you say the better! Anything you say WILL get repeated back to W, so if you can be brief and vague then that is exactly what they will tell your W, and she will wonder why you're being brief and vague. Being mysterious in DB'ing is GOOD! Make them wonder what you're up to!

I really like how you said about our M being dead and wanting a new R.

Glad you like that, it really is about starting over again. If you read threads in the "Piecing" forum, many of them start back in with dating just like they're going out with someone new. Of course it's not -completely- like starting over again since there is a rich history there, but you get the point