Well a bit of time lapsed before I sent that post, so is wasn't quite on the current topic.
Tal, I just want to say your posts are just as insightful and are helping me understand some of CAW's behaviors as well, plus CAW doesn't share with me her inner thoughts ... At times she will write them down and leave them laying around for me to "find" and read. She, too, suffers from very low-esteem, but I alway wonder why she's never willing to talk openly to me. For the first time here, I'm starting to see it as she could be just to ashamed of herself to want to talk to me. Will have to think on this some more...