New to this ...

[steveh27]

Thanks so much sandi2 - as always your spot on. She is using my controlling against me. I stopped doing housework about a week ago as I figured out what you pointed out. I still just pick up after dinner mostly and fold a load of laundry here and there - nothing much but my domain is more outside and focusing on the kids. My motivation changed after ea announced and its completely on the kids as im worried for their well being.

I do not trust her sister but I dont care about what she does at this point, although she only hung out last week and says shes not her sister. Her other friends that know are not like that and she said they didnt support her on the ea but she didnt listen. Which spoke clearly to me. I told her how I feel and she is not interested so im learning to not worry what i cant control.

She tried to bait me into a fight tonight about bringing my son to soccer ... but I had to bite my tongue hard 3-4 times during her texting me while there. She was just overly looking for a fight which finally she texted shes going for a walk. She seemed in better mood when she got back which is good because I just want peace right now.

I know this may advance quickly. I am going to drop the mc talk and just let this progress. My fight is waning however, so the detaching may get easier ... sadly. In all honesty im done proving myself and just want to concentrate on me and keeping the home happy. Anything else will be icing on the cake. I never would have thought this otherwise until recent events.