I'm thinking that it has something to do with what he said he learned in therapy. He said that he had major malfunctions of things he should have learned during the stage of early and late teenage years. Doesn't that have to do with empathy and forming of romantic relationships?
If you are convinced that you are "bad" and wrack yourself with guilt over the "bad" things you've done in the past that prove that....then you are at very high risk to continue to go off into episodes of doing "bad" things to punish yourself and keep that shame from fading away.
I don't know how many times I've told him that all the crap he talks about himself is so wrong. I tell him that if anyone else critisized him the way he does to himself--I'd be getting in someone's face to defend him.
I don't mean to sound like he's some kind of Narcisist--not at all. There is an element of self-centeredness to really low self-esteem though. Have you ever heard someone with really low self-esteem talk about always feeling like people are looking at them and judging them? As if everyone is focused on THEM all the time and they are the center of attention. The real truth is people probably spend less than 1/100000 of their time even thinking about that person, but you can't convince someone with low-self esteem that.
That kind of thing keeps people stuck inside themselves and have difficulty connecting or having real empathy for other people. THAT is what I think is the deal with Wolfie. He acts alot like an alcoholic sometimes--without the alcohol. That's probably why you and T2 see some similarities, lol!
