Quote: It is never so much of a real empathy for how he affected other people by his behavior, but more of a "I did a bad thing which means I am a bad person". It's about collecting evidence to justify low self-esteem.
What T2 said:excellent observation Tal. I think you're right on the money with that.
I never thought of it this way...I think my H may fit into this category as well. BUT, if people would think about it before hand wouldn't the "bad person syndrome" slowly fade away? It's like a pessimistic person trying to be the optimistic person..they don't quite get it and it's a struggle to GET it...but it can be done.
