She is nothing, T. You know that. A bandaid, a salve. Nothing more. These affair are not buiilt to last. They cannot. They are built on lies and secrecy and broken people.
I wanted to tell you that I saw firsthand two marriages who survived this. And they came out the other side stronger than before.
They both were true love stories. And they now have a new marriage built on soulbaring honesty, true open communication and profound love and trust.
These marriages were very good but, they was a feeling of having taken them for granted and there were things that needed tending when this all played out.
I will tell you, because I have to keep it real always, that it was an extremely difficult road back for them.
But they would both say they are so thankful for the journey and the second chance.
So is it possible for you? Yes, it is, T. There is always the possibility.
Listen, I know that this is something that is so beyond anything you have ever experienced - this wound hits deep in places like no other.
But I see what you are made of, my sweet friend. And I think that for you the possibility is very real.
So, remember it is ok to feel what you feel. I'd be worried if you didnt have these feelings.
But tomorrow is another day ripe with all kinds of possibilities.
