KAW,

I found what you said very interesting:
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I suspect that he felt guilt pains would go away after a few months. Not gonna happen! So now he is trying to determine the source of the continuing pain. Human nature prevailing, he is projecting the source of his pain on you.



I think, in some measure, this is exactly what I fear...That because my H doesn't see an 'end' or "finish date" for his guilt....he is/will continue to redirect his anger for what he feels at ME and our R. AND THAT is exactly what he did to set himself up to have his As.

When the blame for thier 'inner conflict and pain'continues to always circle back around to being caused by US (the LBS) how do we ever win?

Sorry to hog thread space here Tal, but KAW has really made me think.
T2