Quote: Yeah--the guilt bug. The thing is though--I'm asking for his help to heal us both...but I think he's trying to blame me for his guilt bug.
This whole episode is really all about his issues. Specifically .... his expectations and how he is coming up short of what he is expecting. I suspect that he felt guilt pains would go away after a few months. Not gonna happen! So now he is trying to determine the source of the continuing pain. Human nature prevailing, he is projecting the source of his pain on you. Only when you take yourself out of his equation will he then determine the source of his guilt is within him. Not until then will he face it and deal with it being with him for the rest of his life and he will need to find a way to come to terms with his guilt ... in short he will need to change his expectations and this is not going to happen in just a few months. Wolfie has a lot of recovery to do in the time ahead.
As he works thru this process, try not to take it personally, Tal. The pain from the guilt will at times overwelm him. All that yelling was nothing more than screams of pain coming to the surface and being vented. You are fortunate enough to have this bb to do your venting when thoses emotions surface, where does Wolfie have to go to vent? Chances are you are the exposed target when he needs to release. Not saying its a good thing, just trying help you understand so you can find it within yourself to react to it with compassion rather that taking it personally with anger and resentment.
