If you were such a good wife then why did i stray?

[Raine]

I don't know how you should respond, but here are some things for you to think about, for your sake. Remember that you were not a perfect wife, as he is not a perfect husband. There are things you could have done better. But there would always be a reason there for him to blame you, because you are always going to have things you can improve. He needs to blame you. I'm sure right now if I made the choice to go sleep with someone, I would blame my husband too. I think I could feel very justified in blaming him, and likely have very little guilt about it as far as it effects him. I don't think I could handle the self guilt though, and maybe blaming him would help rid that. But the truth is no one forces you to do bad things. And even if people wrong you, it doesn't make it right for you to do wrong things.

MWD said:

"I've met people whose spouses refused to have sex for years and although that made them miserable, they simply could not cheat. I've met other people who, when their relationships hit predictable bumps in the road, rather than work things out, they sought comfort in the arms of strangers. Unhappy marriages don't cause infidelity. Being unfaithful causes infidelity."

He may never take responsibly. And right now he is pushing your buttons to alleviate his own guilt. Obviously right now he is not a good husband. Why then are you not straying?