Shiny: thanks for the wonderful observations. I think you could be right that he sort of went haywire due to an emotional overload that I didn't realize was going on.
I know it is hard for him to "suck it up" and admit that he is wrong. I was trying to help him save face by telling him that I would have liked to have spent much more time in the bookstore looking around, but was trying to be considerate by not making him wait around for me. I was trying to make it out like--"hey, aren't we silly getting off track with ASSumptions!"
I understand what you are saying about how he could interpret that he is "STILL FAILING ME". I know that he knows and understands what I need. Why do I keep banging my head against a wall? He acknowledges what I say, but then.....nothing. When I don't bring it up at all.....nothing. This all sounds very much like a cheeseless tunnel doesn't it? The only answer I can think of is to find a way to deny my emotional needs be satisfied with the way he does try, in his own way.
You said:
Quote: I think that just got him all worked up and, although not all, but A LOT of what he said about his reasons for the changes he's been making is plain old anger based BULL SH!T!
Would you please explain why you think that? Slowly, he seems to be going in that direction--little by little, and I see sabotage written all over it.
