its so hard but shift your focus from her to you. Watching her mess is too painful and 100% out of your control
If you do this right you will understand the wisdom of "She is giving you the gift of time"
Put yourself in a position where you feel like you have some control over some aspect of your life - keep journaling here please
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
