I read your entire thread...and as a noob in DB, and a guy in a very similar sitch, not sure how to respond other than to congratulate you on even your minor efforts to control your emotions. Keep putting you and your children first. You cant control her, or her reactions at this point...so why lose your sanity and self over it?
As for the EA...be glad it wasnt an PA. I went through that with my W in 2003-2004 while I was deployed to Iraq. It crushed me, my trust, and more importantly...how I looked at her even to this day. I obviously wanted to make it work...but according to her, things have just been on cruise control since, and she never fully recovered, which that along with other M issues lead to my BD on 1 May 2013. So I know how you feel. The betrayal, the wondering, ect...
Stay healthy, and I wish the very best for you.
I am still in moderation for several days now, hope to get on the boards and post my full sitch soon as well. I could use the support...but it is good in two respects that it teaches me patience, and I get to read other stories such as yours.
Me-45,W-36 M-12 yrs, T-15 years SS- 16 Nov 2003 Initial B date, 2-3 others since EA/PA OM 2003-2004 Reconciled 2004 May 2013 Final BD, W completely detaches W files D June 2013 I am moving out 26 July 2013
