Since this EA happened during soccer practices and such - I have been taking him as of late. Since the other W has said she will certainly confront her, I have wanted to have her avoid that. Not sure why, I'm just not mean spirited. So after our heated conversation earlier, she texts "D13 has softball and S14 has soccer prac. I assume I'm taking D13?" I could tell the sarcasm implied so I just said "I would like to take S14 for tonight if that's ok?". I get "Of course". I then get just as quick "Whens the appt?", referring to our earlier conversation about seeing someone together. I definitely sensed some hostility, so I tried to diffuse by saying "The conversation we had before was needed but I dont want to create bad feelings right now as it will carry over to doing this amicably. I understand your feelings towards me, please try and not make this harder than it needs to be." I also said that S14 has something this weekend if she wants to take him and Ill take D13 to hers.
I dont know how to handle the MC together thing. We each have our own therapists but today we are just pissed, not a good scenario. Although if I wait she may pressure to "get this over with" about seeing a MC. I made the mistake of saying, I think we need help together and not separately. I may just give it over the weekend to find someone. I had already planned a mothers day outing with the kids and she doesnt know about, but I think I will have to ask if this is what she wants. Not thinking this will sooth anything but it may give her time to settle over this past week so far.
BTW im still mad about her therapist saying my changes werent valid.
I am trying to detach by validating her feelings of moving forward but my main priority is to create a happy home for the time being. However that may be possible. Any thoughts?
M: 43 W: 43 Married: 17 Together: 20 BD: 4/8/13 no legal or physical S as of yet 3 kids: S:14 D:13 D:9 W admitted EA: 5/5/13 Mediation started: 6/3/13 W says EA is done: 6/30/13 - still interested in D
