I had a very powerful feeling while reading your post. What came to me was that everything WAS going well in your "post ASSumptions" talk with Wolfie...until you launched into YOUR LL's.
I think that perhaps it was just too much all at once for him...he'd just worked himself into a "mood" assuming YOU didn't want to hang with him, he just sucked up and admitted he'd been off base (not an easy thing for him to do?)....
And BLAM (to him, WE of course understand!!!...seize the opportunity!) now it's all about how YOU need to be loved...ergo how HE is STILL failing you.
I think that just got him all worked up and, although not all, but A LOT of what he said about his reasons for the changes he's been making is plain old anger based BULL SH!T!
Just my humble opinion, of course...but how do you think the day might have ended with you saying that NEXT TIME you'd share some of what you'd learned about your LL's?