Stick to questions about your son and don't be accusatory.

What do YOU think is best for S16? (not because it's validating, because you want to know)

Is he going to school? The school has contacted me about absences so I'm confused.

And then let the conversation unfold.

The rest of your questions need to stay in your head for now. They are all about how you're right and she's wrong.

Turn the pronouns around to suit your situation:

The Master sat through the complaints a woman had against her husband.
Finally he said, “Your marriage would be a happier one my dear, if you were a better wife.”
“And how could I be that?”
“By giving up your efforts to make him a better husband.”

I wish you good luck. I know this is hard.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss